i came to a realisation just not long ago...
falling in love connotates helplessness...it's e 'it's not my fault wat! i FELL in love...when u fall...u can't stop e fall halfway!!' attitude...it connotates e loss of rationality...tt's when u say love is mad...love is blind...it is e shirking of responsibility...saying tt it's not ur fault tt u fell for him...even if u are not supposed to...or if it's e wrong HIM to fall for...'it's coz love is blind'...Falling in Love means tt u cldn't help it............
So by and by...e phrase 'But i fell in love.......' becomes an excuse...too convenient an excuse perhaps...excuses u from moral blame...excuses u from e pain tt u cause others and urself....u can use it as a passport to happiness...but it can also be a one-way st down to hell...but u noe wat........it's a LIE!! Love can be a decision too...it's up to u whether u WANT to make it...u can CHOOSE not to love. u can choose to run away. u can choose to forget. u can choose to look at e big picture...or u can just choose to live in tt self-contained world of urs...whereby e greatest misfortune tt can befall u is e end of ur r/s..................
Perhaps...one day...u will have e maturity to see that love can be a decision...i too hope tt one day...i will have enuf maturity and willpower to make these decisions...i'm still taking my baby steps in this...but i'm sure tt i can make it one day~~