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this blog is based on my experiences of having been in love just twice in my life. LOL! cld be totally inaccurate. i dunno manz. poor sample size. and by no means does this apply to other ppl. thinking that this will apply to u will prob fall flat coz i'm just super weird and crazy. LOL
1.
Qn (usu by qi/ting): who is ______?
me (in love): he's....ay....(choice of negative adjectives: e.g. arrogant, inhuman, ugly, cannot stand it)
me (just a fren): he's....ay....(choice of gd adjectives: e.g. smart, nice, very nice, kind, helpful
analysis: i guess that when i'm in love i believe that the singularity of the emotion is enuf to overcome all the negatives thus making the person deserving of whatever i wish to shower on that person but when i'm not in love...i tend to cite a long list of attributes/promote e person even....as if that will convince myself why i shld in fact feel sth for that person (which of coz doesn't work)
2.
very clear sign....
me (in love): will want to see that person everyday. not fan at all. and i really do e stupidest things like hang out where that person may appear often involving e most fallible excuses
me (just a fren): i get irritated when someone calls me 3 days in a row or tries to meet me 3 days in a row. and i'll avoid the person
3.
me (in love): will do anything to let that person 'owe' me sth or for me to 'owe' that person something
me (just a fren): will make sure that i don't owe him anything
analysis: my mom used to tell me as a child that she doesn't like to 'qian' ppl stuff esp ren qing. coz it's very hard to repay it. i guess that the concept stuck. and it's like if i can't repay the person or if that person can't repay me. we're linked tgt like that forever.
that's it for now..just very random thoughts on my part.
and T is really very smart. he picked up on pt 2 and 3 w/o me telling him anything. so in fact...he did contribute to the formulation of my tots. and he kicked up a fuss last nite on both pts esp pt 3 when i refused to let him pay for my dinner and he said tt i can always buy him dinner back but i refused to accept e arrangement coz i may forget. and he concluded with his usual conclusion that i am too smart for myself. i do not disagree. to be honest...i'm damn sianz of e no-feelings-for-anyone state. but i can't get out of it simply coz i want to mahz. e last i tried making it a matter of choice..i failed ahz. so no choice. opening my eyes very big and looking ard. but still....no choice!